The Silence of Success

No, really, I am alive. Honestly.

And I don’t mean to shut everyone out, either.

But Misdirected is going through an identity crisis. Let me tell you about it.

What To Say And When Not To Say It

So, the last few months have been insane. I’ve been through two surgeries (Bad.) Tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of the release of Inheritance¬†(Good.) Lor and I just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary (Totally, stupendously good.) And we’ve just gone through a major disappointment in our personal lives that has left us both completely fragmented (Very, very, totally, bad.)

And what, you might ask, does any of that have to do with weight loss, bariatric surgery, or lifestyle changes?

Not a darn thing, that’s what. Welcome to my problem.

The 30-second Update

A not insignificant number of people have asked: “What the heck is happening in your weight loss journey?” “Why don’t you talk about it anymore?”

So, for those looking for the update, here it is. As of this morning, I weigh 177 pounds. I am in a 34/36 inch waistline pant (depending on the manufacturer.) My resting heart rate is at 58 bpm, and my blood pressure is right around 120/80.

If those numbers sound at all familiar, its because they are the same numbers I talked about a year ago.

So, how am I doing this?

I am on a carb restricted diet of 60 grams of carbs a day. I drink between 64 and 128 ounces of water a day. I perform moderate exercise for 30 minutes or more at least 5 days a week.

So, yeah. Nothing has changed there either.

Do you begin to see my problem?

The Forum Fallacy

I have always been very suspicious of reviews of any kind on online bulletin boards or forums. The reason for my suspicion is simple: Only pissed-off people write on forums.

When everything is working correctly, no one bothers talking about it.

It is only when things go completely pear-shaped that people get riled up enough to talk about their experience. No one ever says that “Windows 10 is perfect and works perfectly 10/10.” No, only the people who want to say something like “Windows is garbage bill gates is the devil I am only giving this 1 star because I can’t give it negative umpty-quintillion” bother getting online to vent.

Without negativity, there is no drama. And, as a fiction writer, I can assure you: drama is what sells.

So…is Misdirected still a website about my struggles and experiences with weight loss when there is no struggle to report?

It bears thinking about.

Opening The Closet Door

Now, mind you, I’ve used Misdirected to talk about other things. Epilepsy, family issues, Depression…all have gone under the microscope¬†from time to time. But at the end of the day, I am supposed to be chatting about obesity and weight loss.

And I simply have not had much to say recently.

I could, of course, prop open the closet door a little wider and let some of the other skeletons out into the light. But, seriously…is “Hi, I am Jeremy, and this is my life” really what visitors are looking for?

30,000+ monthly visitors on Pinterest tell me the answer to that is a resounding “No!” My #1 page on Misdirected is about working out after bariatric surgery. Close behind it is a page about post-surgery eating. Those two pages get thousands of views a month. That is what people come here looking for.

So, I have been quietly and methodically determining my next move. And, while I dither, the place has gone dark.

Turning The Lights Back On

So, with all that said, I will do my best to come up with a solution quickly. I may invite guest authors to share their experiences. I may design some new menus or exercise routines since those subjects seem to be very popular.

In the meantime, if you are struggling with your own journey through weight loss, remember that I am always happy to talk with you about your experiences. My email box is always open. Being part of a community is the #1 thing you can do to achieve your goals. That applies to most things in life, by the way, not just weight loss.

And, if you happen to have any bright ideas about the Misdirected transition, man, I would love to hear them. Some days I am inches away from throwing my hands in the air and returning to writing about video games.

At least then I would have something to talk about, right?

Looking For Drama,

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